Let me share with you some comments and reactions on the part exit poll on
psychological help. The first reaction I've noticed is that of responding espondendo first the concept: "I have no problems . .."
This course is a perfectly normal reaction, that has to do with self-esteem, the fact of repeating to themselves "okay" and hence is a positive attitude, even when it is not true at all.
may thus be considered a functional response to our balance.
The second sentence is intended to maintain a precise distance between ourselves and those who have chosen to survey the psychological support that can help everyone, young children, teenagers, etc. ..
considerations are often similar to this: " those who need psychological help because he is già problemi con se stesso, quindi, ha problemi a prescindere dalla celiachia ".
Questo tipo di risposta non corrisponde alla realtà empirica, ma soprattutto rappresenta quello che gli psicologi chiamano Self Serving Bias .
Niente di grave, è solo uno dei tanti meccanismi di difesa che la nostra mente mette in atto, ma rappresenta una "distorsione funzionale al nostro benessere".
Pensare che l'aiuto psicologico per un celiaco sia necessario solo per problemi già esistenti ci mette inconsciamente al riparo dal doverlo richiedere e quindi dal considerarci "a rischio".
Ma questo in realtà denota un pregiudizio implicito verso l'aiuto psicologico.
Perché questa diffidenza e cosa davvero sarà mai questo aiuto?
La colpa non è nostra. In Italia c'è culturalmente un atteggiamento che ci ha abituati al sospetto nei confronti della psicologia e questo perché la si confonde con la psicoanalisi e comunque la si lega a problemi esclusivamente di natura neuro-comportamentale.
In realtà persino un blog o un forum può dare un aiuto, perché semplicemente parliamo dei nostri problemi; inoltre è qualcosa che facciamo con tutti quelli ai quali confidiamo le nostre difficoltà.
Solo in quello psicologico dall'altra parte abbiamo una persona qualificata.
In generale significa sfogarsi, dare via libera alle nostre preoccupazioni and feel what the other person says, and we do it because this shows us the way but we have to make yourself .
But this exchange of ideas is very different from "therapy" psychological.
is not true that those who feel they have to get psychological help must necessarily have a problem with himself.
Especially if this assistance relates to a problem with your partner or on our being in a group, and the social sphere.
In groups there are many dynamics and gluten-free diet can change these arrangements.
We want to be appreciated by our friends, relatives, colleagues, we want to be viewed positively. We want to be invited to a pizzeria, at weddings (maybe not all !!!), at table at birthday parties or to parties.
But not everyone is lucky enough to have friends, relatives and colleagues who refuse to be impressed by the GF diet.
Therefore, it is not always a problem because of past personal and often depends not so much from them, paradoxically, as the degree of knowledge about celiac disease who have their acquaintances.
Many people pretend to know the celiac disease, but do not know enough. Many times our strength in the diet is even viewed as a fixation.
I remember a girl that I spoke very ill of a friend of his CD. Diceva " è strana, se ne sta sempre per conto suo e quando la invitiamo in pizzeria dice addirittura che non può mangiare neanche una mozzarella! Ora, passi per il glutine, ma la mozzarella? Io non la invito più! E' esagerata! ".
Le spiegai che molti celiaci sono anche intolleranti al lattosio e una mozzarella significa avere una colica addominale molto forte. Rimase sorpresa e fu molto dispiaciuta di averne pensato male.
Ma analizziamo bene il meccanismo:
Mangi in modo diverso> non sei "elastica"> sei strana> sei diversa> isolamento.
Nonostante appearances, is not a mechanism that denotes "evil."
Most people do not accept what he knows and gives it a negative value .
On the contrary, something "already seen", a family member, is better tolerated. And 'the mechanism of advertising. An object or person, are considered good, trustworthy, reliable or good just because we've seen them several times, maybe even without ever having had to do.
understand why others behave in a certain way, to prevent situations and know that not always do so for a real lack of good will but because it is a common mechanism and a lot more natural than you think, will also help us to implement methods and strategies to avoid misunderstandings.
is to know what little tricks to put in place to avoid thinking about the evil of the world and isolate .
This is the psychological help for a celiac.
As you see, is all about understanding others, get a little 'psychologists.
There is nothing to fear.
